March 14th: Today I wanted to provide everyone with some insight and advice. Take it or leave it. We have all had family, friends, co-workers or acquaintances that have been in difficult situations. A baby in the NICU, a sick child, a death in the family, a car accident or a natural disaster and you feel bad. You want to do something but you don’t know what to do. So often the first response is “let me know if you need anything”. Being in this position and hearing this response more times than I can count, I will tell you- we will not let you know if we need something. It takes too much energy to figure it out, call and ask for what is needed. Instead our energy is spent caring for our sick baby or making funeral arrangements or calling the insurance company. So here is the better response- TELL the family what you are going to do. We are going to drop off dinner on Thursday night, do you have any food allergies. Will it work to walk your dog on Saturday morning, we will be there at 8am? Provide a bag of groceries or household items, offer to clean their house, ask if you can pick up their dry cleaning. These are things that get put off and are no longer a priority when you have a sick baby, but they are things that are still needed. We had some amazing friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances and even strangers help us during this difficult time and we are tremendously grateful. But hopefully this post will help you to know what to do when you have someone in a difficult situation. We are in the process of developing a foundation for Eden where we can do some of these things for families who were in our similar situation. Eden’s Garden will be dedicated to helping others through this difficult time by easing their minds in whatever way we can. More to come soon.